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ranting & raving about stuff that gets me on my high horse or rips my nightie with more than a question or two thrown in because I don't understand the world around me

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Leadership often feels like constantly dragging this forward. You can see where you need to be and people around you understand but can't make their own way there. So you spend your time helping them learn what they need to know to move. Great leaders manage this in a way that leaves the people they've been dragging forward with the skills and confidence to do this by themselves next time.

Parenthood is a twenty year experiment! Billions of people have done it before is but we all embark on it with our own ideas. Personally I think the key is consistenty and representativeness. But I guess I will find out how will we've done in 2030. What I hope is that my 3 sons are generous, men of integrity, gracious and Godly so they succeed in a way that transcends their lives. I hope that my sons impact their world in a way that is exponentially greater than I have.

We all have a responsibility to each other. Some do this without expecting a return. What if we demanded from ourselves what we expect from others?

I'm not certain that we should pursue the desires of our hearts. These desires aren't always healthy and the change as we grow. Desires as are kids are somewhat immature whereas teenage desires have are far more selfish focus (generalizations of course). Overtime our desires move and change often revealing how unhelpful and potentially destructive they were.

How we phrase things communicated do much. "What did you want?" signals we weren't listening and is frustrating when you have to repeat yourself. Personally it communicates that I didn't really listen despite asking a worriesq. Prefacing it with, "I'm sorry," makes it marginally better, but still frustrating .Something as simple as, "sorry, I didn't catch that" leaves me happy to repeat myself.

The difficultly of parenting is that mostly we're learning in the job. Then it gets complicated because your kids live in a different world to what we grew up in. If that doesn't make it challenging enough when you have more than one coldc they are going to be different, have different strengths and weaknesses, and respond to you differently. That means you constantly have to deal with consistency issues between kids.

Balance in life is incredibly important to physical and mental health. Making time for this sends like an easy exercise, something trivial even. However, it is obvious in my life that it is far more complicated than it appears. Between work and kids it is difficult to ensure time for something other than work and kids! This is increasingly important and I'm conscious that it isn't just me who needs this but also N. That makes it even more difficult as we just work and family commitments. I guess nobody ever said loving would be simple...

The smartphone merged the features of the best PDA (personal digital assistant) devices and a mobile phone. The promise was we would be better organised in our personal and professional lives. The reality is we're less organised, more distracted, and incapable of finishing what we start mostly because of notifications.

We are all wounded and limping through parts of our life. Words, relationships, financial situations can inflict bruises that heal, but often leave is scarred or limping. For the rest of our lives we protect this tenderness as we attempt to avoid more pain and wounds . This is something we all share yet fail to see in others.

I hope that when my sons begin work they act and behave like the mature grown ups they should be. Wherever I've worked I encounter childish and immature behavior that prevents progress. As a parent I aim to release young men who will rise above the petty and selfish actions that prevail. A manager isn't a mother and contributing to the greater good isn't difficult. It does require a level of self awareness and personal reflection though. Much like a sports team relies on individuals knowing their part to play, each recognises that at different times and in different situations a different person or play might be utilised. The team comes before the individual. When the team wins so does every individual in the team.