This a rehashing of something I posted a while ago. What I heard wasn't directed at parents, but as I listed it seemed to apply to parenting more than anything else in my life! The truth of the matter is I struggle with parenting. Most of the time it feels like I'm not doing a great job and we aren't going to end up where I want to be (3 generous, accepting, and intelligent young men released into the wild)!
The story was lessons from Joshua and Jericho (read it here). If you're not aware of it the basic story goes that an army marched around a city silently once a day for 7 days. The first 6 days nothing happened, but on the 7th they blast their trumpets and the walls fall down.
There were 3 points that were pulled out of it and each of them is so reflective of how I feel about parenting:
- You don't see any progress - In fact you're just walking around in circles (almost literally) without anything changing. How is what we have today any different to 3 or 5 years ago?
- You can't see the end result - Right now I can't picture how what I have in a 13 year old is going to become that generous, accepting, intelligent young man he could be!
- It is neverending! - Well maybe not neverending, but the process is completely open ended.
Maybe I'm only in the 3rd or 4th day of the 7 days of marching. But I'm exhausted, feel like nothing is progressing, and aren't sure how to get from here to that end goal.